When our kids do something that makes us upset, it is up to us to remain calm. We have to be stronger. They need our unconditional love. If we do not love them unconditionally, they will have a hard time adjusting as adults. They will question everything that they do.
If they have our unconditional love no matter what, they will have amazing confidence in their abilities. They will not be afraid to try. They will do more. We have to be strong enough to admit that we need to be more loving. If we only love our kids when they are doing something good, they will learn to seek validation from outside themselves.
No one needs validation from anyone to do something good. That is the point. If we let the kids know that it is okay to be who they are and they are still loved even when they make mistakes, they are well on their way to being stronger adults. We have to be consistent and strong as parents. The future generations need us to be stronger.